Be Your Own Special Someone
Be Your Own Special Someone
To anyone complaining about not having "someone special" for Valentine's Day, you are your own special someone.
Around this time of year when there's a plethora of cheesy couples photos on Instagram we may feel burdened with loneliness and inadequacy. But, ladies, our independence is the greatest gift! A gift you cannot exchange for store credit. The ability to do and think for our self is one of the highest attributes we all strive for. Whether you are single or in a relationship, don't let a commercialized day like Valentine's Day spoil you from treating yourself, and, more importantly, loving yourself. A strong woman once said to a man:
Samantha Jones had a great point. The relationship you have with yourself is the longest relationship you will ever have, so why not take the time to enjoy building on it? There is no "other half." Whether you're in a committed relationship, casually dating or completely single. You are a whole person! Make yourself a priority today — and every day — without feeling guilty or worried about coming off as a narcissist.
Spend a few minutes at your desk thinking and writing about what you most value about yourself. Are you a generous person? Do you value your work ethic? Do you value your loyalty? There is no wrong answer. Just write a list of all your enduring qualities. Having self-worth doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship, but it helps to identify what you want and what you deserve to have.
Think back to your first notable accomplishment and how that made you feel. Also look back on a recent failure and how you overcame that hurdle. It's important to celebrate your successes and your failures because it doesn't just build character but also perseverance and ambition. Don't be ashamed of your past mistakes. It's okay to cringe in the moment, but forgive yourself and move on!
We have a tendency to second-guess ourselves, to not listen to our gut. Think of something important in your life right now, maybe a decision you’ve been on the fence about but you’re worried about making the wrong choice. Unplug and take the time to really listen to your inner wisdom. What is it telling you? Is it telling you to take a risk? Set little post-its on your mirrors to remind yourself that 'YOU GOT THIS!' because you really got this.
Sometimes it's hard to justify the random treats we give ourselves, like a new outfit from H&M or makeup from Sephora. Think about the last time you did something that made another person feel good. Think about a time at work when you helped a colleague achieve their goal. Ease up on the guilt of buying something (no matter how cheap or expensive it is) when you have a perfectly good explanation as to why you deserve it.
You got this!