Men's Secret Sex Questions Exposed
Men's Secret Sex Questions Exposed
Ever wondered what men really want in bed? We've compiled a list of the secret questions most men have, and how you, as his sexy fairy godmother, can solve them for him...
Can I watch you?
The voyeur in a man is quite a strong aspect of his sexuality and what most men crave more than anything in bed is the ability to see what the action looks like, especially when the action includes you and your naked body.
So go on, turn on the lights (or light some candles for a more flattering look) and let him feast his eyes all over you. And if you let him watch the both of you mid-sex in a mirror, he'll be more grateful than you'll ever know!
Can you go on top tonight?
Part lazy, part voyeur but also part submissive - men love it when YOU take control and initiate sex. No man wants to burden the sole responsibility of love making (it's boring).
So why not up the ante by showing how much your desire him and treating him like you mean business? Forget all the passiveness books like The Rules teach you; he'll love your hands-on approach and your assertiveness. And being on top puts you in the bonus power seat of controlling the rhythm and depth necessary for your own climax.
Can we get a little vocal please?
When a man encourages or asks you to talk to him during sex , it's a sure sign he gets driven wild by the aural factor and wants to know how much you're enjoying his company.
Now you don't have to engage in porno talk, just a few sentences, and correctly placed moans should do the trick. The best approach is to openly whisper, breathily in his ear, exactly what you're going to do to him, and how.
He'll go crazy over the verbal feedback. Oh, and if you manage to mention his name and a few graphically naughty words too, you'll send him over the edge.
Does it have to be in the bedroom, darling?
Sex in the same place can get incredibly monotonous and almost always has a way of zapping spontaneity, which of course is a key ingredient for sizzling, red hot love making.
Try the bathroom, living room, heck even the staircase (did you ever see that scene in Donnie Brasco? Well, it dripped with lust.) And if you're feeling extra adventurous, try taking sex out of the place where you do all the hoovering and pay the bills completely. A naughty session in a hotel or hotel balcony is sure to quench his thirst for risque sex.
Can I have you and my games console at the same time?
Play the gadget game the way he does, by incorporating his love of all things hi-tech into your bedroom routine. Interactive sex toys are the latest craze in adult fun, and no we're not talking creepy real-life sex dolls.
More like mobile phone applications which turn into custom-made vibrators and internet and DVD controlled vibrators - all of which will push his pleasure, and yours - further than you could imagine.
Can you go a little deeper?
Harder, faster, deeper. While men do like slow and sensual sessions, they just can't resist the allure of making things a tad rougher in the bedroom. Now, that doesn't mean slapping him around, but perhaps pulling him in harder when you're making love and revving up the passion to new levels.
The 'deeper' also relates to oral sex, but for many women this is a no-go area because of our gag reflexes. So don't force it if it really isn't your cup of tea and instead simulate and mimic the feeling of deep throating by using your hands as well as your mouth and either lots of oil, saliva or, if you going to be using condoms later, lots of water-based lubricant so that the rubber is not affected and sex remains fundamentally safe and fun.
What are you wearing?
When a guy asks this question it has a whole different meaning to when your girlfriends ask. When he phones from work and wants to know what you've got on, he's not asking so that he can be just as smartly dressed as you for that evening's social outing; he wants to visualise your beautiful body (see what I mean about men being visual creatures? They're really into it!) in something really beautiful.
Think of yourself like a wrapped gift only he can open and you'll get the deal about sexy lingerie. Also knowing you are wearing something extra special just for him will not only excite him, it'll make him feel like million dollars.
What are you thinking?
Fantasy sharing isn't for the faint hearted and it's only really to be done with someone you can trust and feel totally at ease with.
The great thing about this question is that it takes the guess work out of sex and your man can find out exactly what it is that turns you on, and will try to do his best at helping you turn it into a reality. Good communication isn't just an aphrodisiac, it's vital in maintaining a fulfilling and healthy sex life.
Do you think I'm big enough?
Oh yes, the male libido is influenced by so many things, but the biggest is a matter of size. The fact that he'll probably never ask you this question outright shows how much of a secret it is and how deeply it affects him.
So to ensure an appointment with an enlargement clinic never happens, stroke his ego (this is what this question is all about after all). Tell it to him straight: It's never about the size of his family jewels, but what moves he can pull off with them.
Then put him to the test in as many positions as you can imagine possible. You'll have a fully confident Adonis back in your camp in no time.
Are you willing to experiment?
Kinky sex is a big minefield and totally subjective. As all sexualities are unique, one person's fantasy of wearing heels in bed might be another's idea of hell.
Don't be forced into doing anything you don't want to, but do go into any sexual relationship with an open mind. It might take a while, but be straight up about your sexual preferences and things you might like to try - and show some enthusiasm when he comes up with ideas that could enhance your sex lives too.